既生瑜何生亮
果果在这个幼儿园也算是老油条了，从15个月上到现在4岁半。一直以来跟小朋友们都相亲相爱，多小无猜。
这天早上，果果跟妈妈一起去幼儿园，在幼儿园门口看见小象同学。小象最近才到这个幼儿园这个班，但是性格很好，远远地看见我们，就大喊，Brian!
要是别的小朋友，果果一定早就飞奔而去。未曾想，今天他居然跟没有听见一样，完全熟视无睹。妈妈觉得小朋友很没有礼貌，赶紧教育。
我们进了门，小象同学在电梯边等我们，说Let's wait for Brian.
好贴心的孩子！
偏偏我们今天带了scooter,要先在stroller room放好。 果果仍然熟视无睹地跟我说，mom, let's park the scooter.
你停车就停车，小朋友居然给我故意墨迹。每次指着一个地方说，我们放在这儿吧，然后立刻改主意，不要不要，这儿！这样里里外外走了三圈，我都看见小象妈妈不开心的脸色了。我很不好意思地说，sorry, he just cannot make up his mind.
太尊重小朋友也有恶果啊。要是我铁腕地把scooter随便一放，哪有这么多麻烦事！
总算停好车了，我长舒一口气，拽着小人就要跟小象一起进电梯。
麻烦，又来了。我要走楼梯！
我简直要骂人了。从头到尾，果果没有跟小象同学打一声招呼，找了无数借口托时间。
Something is going on。
最后两个小朋友还是没有一起上楼。
正好随后开家长会，赶紧的把这个问题扔出来。
老师说，I have noticed this too! There seems to be some competition between these two kids. We are trying to figure out why this is happening. My hypothesis is that they are very very similar to each other. They are both good at match, they are both very quick to answer questions. I think they feel threatened by each other because the other steals the spotlight.
哈哈哈哈，真的是这样吗？请问，你们的spotlight是圆的还是方的，大的还是小的？你们俩，谁是瑜谁是亮？！
这个说法，后来又被别的老师予以支持。虽然从果果那里，我什么都没有问到。
回到家的对话：
Brian, who are your friends at school?
xx, xx, xx, xx, xx, and xx.
How about Sean?
He is not my friend.
Why?
Because he is not nice to me.
But I see that he is very nice. He said hi, and he waited for you.
He is not my friend!
OK, that's fine. You don't have to be friends with everyone. But you want to get along with kids at school.
What does get along mean?
That means, ehhh, no bad words, no flighting.
If you get along with Sean, I will give you a sticker. Five stickers, you get a sugus.
OK!
隔天回来，第一件事情妈妈就问，
Did you play with Sean today?
I did not play with him. I leave him alone today! Can I get a sticker?
妈妈头上三根黑线。Get along with someone is not leaving someone alone!
Is this really a problem of language skills or a problem of EQ?!
